My T Shirt....Finally.

I ordered my Momtini tshirt quite some time ago. It arrived and was far too small for flattering public wearing so I asked to exchange it. A few short days later the new shirt arrived, in the same unflattering size. Yesterday....3 months later, I got the right size.

But I have a few questions: Is it totally stupid to wear my own website's t shirt out in public? I feel like Macy Gray in that stupid "My new album drops" dress at the VMA's years ago.

Also, and men, please don't answer. Do I need different bras? My boobs have always been so small I never really required any substantial support. But as I've gained weight, I'm starting to think the ladies need to be raised a bit higher. The above picture seems to show that in really horrifying detail.

Thoughts from bra experts? Can the ladies look better?

Also, I apologize for the shitty picture but GUESS WHAT!?

Next week between 6/23-6/29 a very special camera will join our family. I saved and I saved hard. Also my mom gave me the last bit I needed so now I'm in debt to the bank of mom. But not by much!

Hooray for Moms!

Also, Oprah made me love Barrack Obama. Not that he's unlovable, I just don't want Oprah to make me love anything.

Comments

[Liz in Maryland]

There must be something a bit off with the sizing of that shirt because mine is extremely small too. And I got a large!

I'm no bra expert, but I just got measured for the first time in years and I was totally buying the wrong size for years.

[Ang]

Wacoal....wear nothing but wacoal bras and your boobs will love you for it. Believe me there's nothing better than having boobs that owe you a favor.

[mamaloo]

you look fab! wear it with prideful abandon.

[Heatheranne]

No, it's not stupid to wear your website shirt. I'd wear mine, if I had one. And, I wish I had a boob problem. Mine are too small to worry about it. You've got good boobs. Perk them up and flaunt them.

[WannaBeMom/Katie]

I second Wacoal. I have some bazooms, and Wacoal is the only bra I will wear. And I second to go for the measuring. I found it totally humilating, but in the end, the result has been super.

And one more thing to agree with: Oprah and Obama. I turned on Oprah while ironing, and thought it would be on for about two minutes, and even though I was pretty sure I was already deeply in love wiht Obama, I am now in full-fledged infatuation.

[mrsmogul]

You must be doing well to have your own tees. I've been thinking of making mine own up. Perhaps in a few months when I am pregnant I can wear a Momtini

[Sarcomical]

i think the shirt is great, and you SHOULD wear it.

the ladies? you'd think that being a girl i'd have more of a knowledgeable opinion about this, but all i can say is they seem fine to me. however, if you want a bit more oomph...try the victoria's secret body by victoria shaping demi bra.

and please, always remember this: white t-shirt = FLESHTONE BRA! never white. always nude (or closest to your skintone). i've wanted to smack a number of women i see in public with white t-shirts and a horrid white bra showing.

[Nancy]

On the uplifting issue, I must paraphrase a bit of advice that Stacy and Clinton imparted on "What Not To Wear", to a 39 year old who had no idea how to dress, and insisted on wearing halter tops with no bra, even though she definitely didn't have the body for them.

Their advice, as part of their encouraging her to wear a proper bra, was "we want them to be UP THERE!" Stacy also said something about, without the support, they were sort of merging with her stomach. Ouch.

[Poppy]

Definitely wear the shirt in public. It's cute and tasteful.

As for the boob issue, I'm a huge fan of professional bra fittings for everyone. They're awesome! Go to an independent lingerie store, preferably one that also sells mastectomy and nursing supplies, because believe me, they're gonna know boobs if they're selling that stuff. A good shop won't just measure you and tell you your size; they'll even find the bras that are going to work best for you. And you'll probably spend less than you would at Victoria's Secret.

[abfab]

I agree with going in for a fitting for a bra. My own assessment was way off... When I finally got the right size (larger cup, lower inches) I actually looked smaller (a good thing). I love the Bali Flower bra. The price is right too.

[Ruth]

just adding to the chorus to get a fitting. every single woman i know who did found out she was wearing the wrong size. also love wacoal, but get the fitting first so you know what size to buy. try to find a little bra and corset shop -- those ladies know just how to calculate your size correctly. and definitely wear the shirt!

[trine]

you look FAB.

and if THOSE are small, then what are mine? non-existent?? ah, i loved breastfeeding...

[Karli]

Speaking of Oprah, she did a bra show with the "What Not to Wear" girls. They had a bra expert on who said:

-Your boobs should be halfway between your shoulders and your elbows, when you look at yourself from the side in a mirror.
-The back of the bra should be even with the front, or a little bit lower. If you look in the mirror and the back looks higher than the front, it's not giving you enough support.

They said on the show that 85% of women wear the wrong size bra.

[Phil]

Congrats on saving up (mostly, at least!) for the camera. I imagine that your photowork will be filled with more joy and less "oh damn, what I have done?" vibe. At least that's what I hope will happen for me when I FINALLY GET ENOUGH $ FOR ONE OF THOSE THINGS.

[S]

Go to Victoria's secret and try on their Body bra. I'm sure they're making 10,000% profit on them, but nothing feels or looks better for me.

[Bari]

I love the t-shirt! I wore mine to my company's customer appreciation Martini party and got tons of complements on it.

[Y]

Oprah made me love to hate Tom Cruise. (even more than I already did)

[Sarah]

Congrats on the camera!!! Can't wait to see your pics.
It think its totally ok to wear the shirt out.

[MsSisyphus]

I thought the ladies were looking pretty good, actually. And now that I've seen it on, I'm totally getting a Momtini shirt. So how's that for an endorsement?

Off to google wacoal bras now, because these bfing babies could do with some oomph.

[Jennifer]

Wear it out and wear it often. Say it loud and proud. But pardon me, I question your depth perception re: the size of your ladies. If those are small, I am a prepubescent teenage male and just.never.knew.

Also? I must click on your site 100 times a day just to see the face on your little blonde ornament upper left. She makes me howl. My sides hurt. I want one.

[Mir]

I love the shirt, and may just have to break down and order one for myself.

You've gotten lots of great advice on the twins. Fit does change over the years and a good bra can make aaaaaall the difference.

On the other hand, soon you'll have your dream camera with which you can make yourself look amazing, no matter what. ;)

[clickmom]

Love the shirt, unfortunately I would have to order the manly version in order to squeeze my girls in. Can you model that one too?

As far as the bra thing goes, I have a couple of requirements for a bra that I can share with you

1. the girls must fit completely in-no cleavage bulges
2. straps cannot cut off circulation to the rest of my arms.
3. any under wire cannot poke into my pits
and most importantly-
4. the girls cannot in any way resemble Chloris Leachman's character in High Anxiety. (Hey-it happens.)

[clickmom]

Love the shirt, unfortunately I would have to order the manly version in order to squeeze my girls in. Can you model that one too?

As far as the bra thing goes, I have a couple of requirements for a bra that I can share with you

1. the girls must fit completely in-no cleavage bulges
2. straps cannot cut off circulation to the rest of my arms.
3. any under wire cannot poke into my pits
and most importantly-
4. the girls cannot in any way resemble Chloris Leachman's character in High Anxiety. (Hey-it happens.)

[shannonk]

Wacoal is definitely the way to go. You pay a little more, but they last a very long time and you don't lose support as quickly as with other bras I have tried.

Love the shirt. It looks great.

[Liz in Maryland]

Anyone out there with a 38C have a recommendation for a non-under wire bra? I hate the under wire, big time. But when you get past 34B it's hard to find one w/o a wire.

[Kellie]

Your shirt is Fawsome. Fawsome=Fuckin' Awesome. You should totally wear it. I know a handful of bands who wear their own shirts when they play.

I just made a shirt from the same place you got yours that says,"I sleep with a Republican." My husband says I am evil.

[Kellie]

I forgot to add this. I say Wacoal also. They kick ass and keep my tata's up where they should be.

[AmyinMotwon]

I am SO ordering one now that I could show my husband on my fancy new laptop. Except I don't think these giant breastfeeding ladyfriends could possibly fit into one. And I saw that Oprah show and as soon as I am done breastfeeding I am getting measured and hiking these girls up. Try Harp's in Birmingham --my middle-aged mom swears by them.

[Nancy]

Melissa has big boobs! The ladies look good to me, and the crisp white of the T sets off your tan nicely. I tend to go for guy style t-shirts, but the woman's style looks much more attractive. I know I need help after baby and weight gain, so I'm going to follow all the good advice given above and better do so ASAP, whatever the cost! I went to that Bravo Intimates store in town once. It wasn't the best time to visit because I was pregnant and the ladies were in transition. But I tried some bras on anyway. Then, while in the dressing room, I was abandoned by my clerk - she was involved in what seemed like a FOREVER discussion with a physician, talking about how they can help fit women who've had mastectomies, etc., and there I was, all hormonal, stuck in a fitting room needing help, waiting. That was not the best experience, but I'm going to give it another shot because, well, probably a lot of other women were helped as a result of that conversation that day.
I don't think it's stupid or tacky at all to wear your own shirt around; people wear their own jewelry all the time. Now if it were a sweatshirt with glittery paint and teddy bears and buttons and crap, that might be a different story...

[alice, uptown]

Wear your momtini everywhere! And don't forget the order form in your back pocket -- this T-shirt is an original and moms the world over should be dipping pinkies into their cocktail glasses and praising you for it (buying it would certainly strengthen their praise.) Not being a mom, I think I'd be advertising under false pretenses -- or, that would explain why I'm not a mom, very concisely. It's a little late in the game to give one to my mom, though it would go nicely with Dewars and water.

As for the ladies, I second the bra-fittings mentioned above. I would also add, that no matter what the bra saleslady says, if she thinks it fits and you think it's uncomfortable, you win.

[Fahrvergnugen]

Congratulations on the camera! I'm way stoked for you.

I'm in a similar situation with a new bike I am desiring, yet not buying because it is hella expnsive, and the bicycle I already have is perfectly fine, even if this new one is lighter and whippier, and generally fast and shiny.

Will be looking forward to more blissful photos (models released, of course!)

[Michelle]

The tee looks fabulous. Wear it everywhere.

As for bras, I picked up a few nifty tidbits about bras that fit from...ugh...an Oprah show. (Although I still had to rant about the show on my own blog. Can't help mahself.) Anyway, here's what I learned:

* When you first buy a bra, it should fit snugly around your ribcage on the very LOOSEST notch of the closure. Then, as the bra stretches with age, you can use the next tightest notch and so on.

* The back of your bra should be level with or LOWER than the front of the bra. If it rides up at all in back, that means the bra is too big around and you should go down a size or more until it stays level and low down.

To echo what has been said already, it seems that most women are wearing a bra that is too big in the ribcage and too small in the cup. I followed the advice and it *did* seem to hike the old gals up quite a bit. But if you ask me, you're lookin' fine.

[Andrea]

I swear by Target's "Enhancing" bra. They are just like Victoria Secret's Body by Victoria but are only $10! I love them! It definitely gives me the lift I need AND a bigger size (the barely B just doesn't cut it.)

On a side note, I've got some stories for you from last night. You are lucky you weren't TPed by my wonderful neighbors. They were all chanting Logan's name along with your address! Watch out!

[Cara]

Great bra tips! I never felt like mine fit well and I've had numerous fittings and they all say the same size which is what I wear. But the back always seems higher than the front..guess they just aren't the right bras! I'm totally checking out Wacoal, I've never heard of them before. But I thought your boobs looked fine where they were but I'm all for the higher the better (since I don't have enough to worry about them looking too jacked up) And I must say you don't look small to me!

And I really love your shirt, don't question wearing it for a second!

[Lil' Sis]

I wouldn't recommend wearing the t-shirt to a gala affair that will be on television, or prolly even when Good Morning America comes to interview you, but I think it's a great design & would wear it with pride. I had to cancel my order a while back because I gave the wrong address (my office had just moved) and I haven't gotten around to ordering again. But I like the fit of the shirt, so I will have to. I'm going on tour in September- maybe I will wear it on stages up & down the east coast. Oh wait, only old men and preteen girls like the Stepsisters- not really your core audience... Ha!

(oh, and your breasticles look fine as they are.)

-Miao.

[trisha]

Wacoal. Or Playtex Zen.

[Torrie]

Boy, I hope it's not stupid to wear your own website's T-shirt, because I wear mine all of the time.

Also, the twins look great- not to worry.

[Kate W.]

LOVE the T-shirt!! You should totally wear it! As for the bras... I agree with the above Wacoal advice... they are expensive but worth it and they are good quality so they should last you a while.
I want a t-shirt!!

[MainlineMom]

I am in love with the Victoria's Secret Body demi shaping bra. Mine are big enough to definately need the lift and this one works.

[jacks]

Victoria's Secret Body by Victoria (NOT Angels) IPEX bra.

That is all.

[dinka]

about barack, i just finished reading his memoir "dreams from my father" and i was very impressed. he is a great writer and i was touched by his sensibility and honesty. he seems like a great person. i totally recommend the book.

and some more bra info from the oprah show: you want to buy a bra that fits you in the width on the last button, so when you wash it, you can adjust the tightness. it was also said that usually you should go with lower number in the width so you can wear the bra lower on your body (so it doesn't ride up your back). at the same time you might need to go one cup bigger (which will not be huge difference because the cups get narrower as the width is smaller).

[MollieBee]

Dude!

I had a drunken playdate on friday...thanks for the inspiration.

[leigh]

I got my friend the Momtini shirt for her 30th birthday and she LOVED it! And I say you should wear yours as often as possible - because it was your fabulous idea, and it looks great.

[Jessamyn]

Congrats on the camera! Wooo! Next time you're in Chicago, come and visit and we can run around and take pictures with our matching cameras that we kind of sort of had money to afford!

Also, I am taking all of these boob tips from all of you wonderful women and putting them to my advantage, because I have to say, 16 months after the birth of my first child, and these formerly pumped up tatas are flopping kind of low, and bras that used to fit me now give me either no support or have underwire that digs into my pits so much that I have sore spots hours after I take it off. Sigh. I need a fitting, you say? And you recommend Wacoal?

Melissa, from the picture, though, I have to say that your ladies look just fine!

[Jessamyn]

Congrats on the camera! Wooo! Next time you're in Chicago, come and visit and we can run around and take pictures with our matching cameras that we kind of sort of had money to afford!

Also, I am taking all of these boob tips from all of you wonderful women and putting them to my advantage, because I have to say, 16 months after the birth of my first child, and these formerly pumped up tatas are flopping kind of low, and bras that used to fit me now give me either no support or have underwire that digs into my pits so much that I have sore spots hours after I take it off. Sigh. I need a fitting, you say? And you recommend Wacoal?

Melissa, from the picture, though, I have to say that your ladies look just fine!

[Jessamyn]

Dammit, I double posted. So now I will triple post and add that I also think I need a Momtini shirt now.

[JT]

The T-shirt rocks.

My mom and I were in the audience for Oprah's Obama show (say that ten times fast after a few margaritas). If you think he comes across beautifully on TV, you should have seen us drooling over his warm, intelligent, gently humorous coutenance in person. Yowza.

[zain]

see i wear a bra it is loose but still every one looks at my nipples