Cheating Hearts

Guess what I did last night. I'll give you a hint! It's the same fucking thing I did last Friday!

Guess what I'm doing today? Going back to the Fucking Apple Store to do the same thing I did for 3 hours just over a week ago!

I am so mad right now I can barely breathe. So while I'm mad let's cover some of the comments and emails I've been getting over the last 3 months.

Before we begin, let me first say, 'I know nearly all of you are being facetious when you say these things.'

However, it's also been increasingly grating on my nerves and it brings up my feelings about cheating and faithful marriage.

First a sampling of some of the comments and/or emails:

[Logan's working late, long hours. Calling and emailing me from the office while he's there and excceedingly crabby about working until midnight or 1am.]

Comment: "I hope you have your man saving underwear."

[It's December 2004, we have no money about 2 days after payday every single week. I am applying for every job I can and failing miserably at getting a job. I complain about my husband's lack of advancement in his career because we're all totally freaking out about money.]

Email: "I hope you know you're just tempting every woman out there to steal your husband and show him what it's like to be appreciated."

[Logan makes a birthday cake for his friend Meg.]

Comment: I don't think I'd be comfortable with my husband making a cake for another woman.

[About my trip to Amsterdam]

Comment: I hope you have fun I'd be a little scared leaving Pants at home though, hopefully no one will get in his!

Big Sigh....

I love Logan. I think he's incredibly handsome and also made up of all the qualities I could ever want in a husband and father for my kids. I wrote a lot about that here and also here, and really there are a million other examples of his awesomeness on this website.

But I will never, never worry about my husband being faithful to me. Not because I don't realize people cheat all the time. Not because I don't understand the allure of 'new sex'.

I will never buy 'man-saving' underwear because if I have to buy underwear to save my man, he's not worth saving.

If he's going to have friendships with women which suddenly become torrid affairs? Frankly I don't want him anymore, because what kind of an asshole would do that to me?

If I can't go out of town for six days without worrying about someone getting in my husband's pants, then I'm married to an idiot who doesn't know how to use the word 'no' and I just don't want to be married to a man like that.

I am insecure in a lot of areas of my life, but my marriage is the one place where I'm secure. Secure enough to know that my husband loves me and our family. Also secure enough in myself to know I don't have to 'keep' him, he's here and we're together because we love each other.

Comments

[Cat]

What is wrong with people?! Seriously.

[Sara]

Amen Sister!

[Caroline]

Jennifer, I don't know whether to ignore you or not. Typically my response to a statement that like that would be in three parts: ignore, ignore, and ignore.

However, I'm just awestruck and can't ignore you. How any woman (excuse me, human being) could make a statement like your comment....completely untrue, and meant simply to hurt, and wound...is beyond what I can even fathom. How in the hell do you sleep at night?

Flat out, take your hatred elsewhere, and don't come back here and post anything like that ever again. You disgust me.

[scigirl]

yeah, fuck you jennifer.

[Busted]

In response to Jennifer

When a friend's boyfriend said he thought I was too good looking for my boyfriend I suggested that my friend cut him out, or I'd cut them both out. I did. I cut them out, and you should cut the shit. Obviously you are yellow. People with big mouths and rotting hearts usually use "anon" email addresses and "some people" excuses. I think it would be best for you to heed Caroline's advice...you need not spread your nasty to nice women on the internet.

[Jbeeky]

Jennifer,
Have you seen a Doctor or Therapist for your Borderline Personality Disorder? Get help before you type again.
PS. look up borderline personality disorder if you have not already, it is you.

[Stephanie]

Jennifer, Melissa and Logan are very good friends of mine. You do not know them. You have no idea what their relationship is like. I think you're probably jealous, and I suggest that you shut the fuck up. And think about why you feel the need to anonymously attack people you don't even know.

[ella]

What a buncha dumb bitches.

They're jealous. Plain & simple. It's so obvious that they're the ones that have to worry about their husbands cheating.

[Dana]

Dude. I know you've already got seven kabillion REALLY GOOD comments here (and a few less than fab) but I just wanted to toss in my own high five to you. Thank you for speaking very clearly for those of us who are secure in our relationships, who don't consider all other women to be dangerous man-stealers, and who find the whole thing stupid.

You rock. Keep rockin'.

[Lil' Sis]

Dear Jennifer,
You are not wanted here. Stop reading this blog. Or at least stop leaving comments because your opinion will not be appreciated or wanted until you learn some manners and self-esteem. If you find Melissa as you state, you have no reason to continually read her blog.
Love,
TeriLynn

PS- If you post with a real email address next time, it might be okay for you to comment.