10 years and all you get is tin.

Yesterday was our 10th wedding anniversary. It was a beautiful day, sunny with a nice breeze. Not too hot, not too cold and not at all humid. Perfect.

There's not much to say about my marriage that I haven't said already. We work at it, fight, have great fun together, love our kids and struggle through the hard times. When we were dating sometimes I would stay the night at Logan's place over the weekends. Don't worry, I slept in my clothes on top of the sheets.

Every Monday I'd leave and head back to school and sleep alone with room mates who, left a little to be desired, and wait for the next weekend so I could be comfortable again spending the weekend with Logan.

When we got engaged, the thing I looked forward to most, even more than my actual wedding day, was being able to go to bed, every night with my husband. To wake up each morning with him and to make a home where we both belonged together all the time.

There are a lot of things I love about Logan, things I love about being married to Logan.But I'm still thrilled everyday that I get to be with him. That I don't have to pack up my toothbrush every week and go back to another life he isn't a part of.

I'm happy every day, even 10 years later, that we get to just be together.

I often get panic-y when he's late coming home because I know, considering the way I've handled the sale of this house, I would not be able to pick myself up if I ever lost him.

I've been busy this week worrying about the inspection (still no date!) and a big ball of anxiety has made it's way into bed with me every night. Things are awfully crowded with this anxiety in my bed and I'm ready to be done with this.

Saturday is Andrea's wine party in the dream neighborhood. The wine party I'd planned to stumble home from....to my dream house 5 doors down. Hopefully by Saturday we'll know if that dream still has a chance to come true.

In the meantime, I painted with the kids for the Buzz Off. Not my favorite project so far. I'm also sharing food for busy parents over at Work it, Mom on a blog called Ordering Disorder.

Comments

[Chelle]

Happy belated anniversary.

[nica]

Hi Melissa!

Long time reader here, de-lurking to say Happy belated Anni! I too just celebrated 10yrs w/my hubby and can relate when you say, “the thing I looked forward to most, even more than my actual wedding day, was being able to go to bed, every night with my husband. To wake up each morning with him and to make a home where we both belonged together all the time.” That by far, has been the best part for me too.

While I’m at it, love your writing, when I grow up I want to write like you. You have validated me in so many ways regarding the negative and positive thinking…of course, the positive thing is always a work in progress.

PS,
Sending my gentle well wishes and hoping you’re not taking some of the anxiety (I feel for the sale or your house SOON) to bed with you too!

[amypt]

Happy anniversary. May you both receive the (not so) belated gift of being able to move your toothbrushes - together - into a new house.

[slouching mom]

What a lovely tribute to Logan. He's one of the good guys, isn't he.

[noodlebugs]

Tin. Sounds about right. Our 10-yr is next Thurs. I would like to think I could be as lovingly eloquent as you were above, but I just can't muster it. I feel the same about my dh. However, that is also colored by the fact that since our house didn't sell (and in fact has gone to foreclosure) there will be no anniversary trip to Jamaica and in fact, dinner and a movie is questionable and seems so forced. Meh.

Can I just copy your post, change the names and give it to dh? I'll give you credit, I promise. (just kidding. That was a compliment)

[Judypooh]

That is so beautiful. May you and Logan have 60 or 70 more wonderful years together.

[HeatherZG]

Happy anniversary, hope that there area many, many more to come and none of them involve the house horrors. Although I'm sure someone has already done it, I named you a Rockin' Girl Blogger--you are the best!

[marymuses]

I just teared up a little bit reading your entry because my fiance and I are separated by 1000 miles right now, and what I truly look forward to is just hanging out with him every day. I have spent too much of this last year packing a bag to go be with him. We're planning a really fun wedding, but I don't care about that so much anymore. I just want to be home in our own home, together.

Happy Anniversary! May you have many, many, many more spent together, and may they be spent together in your dream neighborhood.

[Suebob Davis]

Happy Anniversary.

You get to sleep with him AND he is totally freaking hot. Not that I'm looking or anything.

[MelanieinOrygun]

Happy Anniversary!

[Chicago Chick]

Congrats! David and I celebrated 10 years this past April. I share your sentiments about your husband with my husband. It's wonderful to have someone who is sane while your sanity (at times) is questionable.

Happy, HAPPY anniversary!

[TeriLynn]

Oh sonofabitch! I have been waiting for YEARS for this one, and it comes around RIGHT as I'm losing my gourd over my own wedding & move. So you'll have a very special present for Anniversary #11.
Fuck.

Congratulations, too, by the way!

-miao.

[Loocy]

My fiance and I are apart also. I go visit him in 37 days! I am way more excited about us being together every day than the wedding.

Well, for right now. Once he's back here (in 93 days!) then I can get excited.

Oh, and late congrats on the 10 years.

[Amy Jo]

Happy anniversary, and many more! We just had our five year anniversary, and the gift is wood, which is at least a little funny.

Your history with Logan so closely mirrors my own. We were apart during college and all I wanted was to not have to say good-bye every week. Now we've just bought our first house and I can totally understand your feelings about being so reliant on him during this whole experience.

Good luck. Sending gentle wishes for a delightful inspection!

[carosgram]

What a wonderful, loving post! Wishing you a Happy Anniversary and many more. May all your wishes come true!

[charise]

My fiance and I have already lived together for 2 years, but one of the reasons I knew I could marry him is similar. I'm a pretty bubbly, social person, but that only works because I'm adamant about getting a lot of downtime when I'm home. Seriously, old roomies used to think I was mad at them because I didn't hang out enough. But with him, it's OK that he's around when I need alone time, and I never get sick of having him around, like I did with other guys.

This post makes me excited for all the years ahead. Happy anniversary!

[kathy]

Happy anniversary. My anniversary is also 7/11, but it was 14 for us. ups and downs, but there is something to be said for 14 years (and 10 years!)

Hope next year you are celebrating in the dream neighborhood!

[Warrior Knitter]

Happy Belated Anniversary!!

Your comment about wanting to be able to go to bed every night and wake up with your husband reminded me of our similar situation in the months before we wed in February 1979. We hated saying goodby to each other at the end of the evening and counted the days until we could be together. Even being together 28 years makes it tough when one of us (usually him) has to go on a business trip.

[izzosmom]

Well, you aren't allowing house comments, so it has to go here.

Have you thought about having a roofing allowanca at your higher price? That way, if they could find a cheaper roofer, they could save money. Often, buyers in lower price ranges just don't have the cash or even the ability to finance something that big right after buying (like you didn't!) What I did on my house, which needed A LOT of work when I bought it, was build that money into my loan. I think I needed something like $4000 for repairs, so, in my contract, there was a breakdown: seller to pay no more than 5% in closing costs and repairs not to exceed $4000. I also raised my offer accordingly. That way, I basically financed repairs at my home mortgage apr, whis was far better than any other type of loan I would get. The realtors also WAIVED their commissions on this amount.

Both sides want to sell. Those realtors need to start getting creative.

Good luck!

[MelissaS]

Yep, that was the last deal.

This time we have one realtor waiving her commission and we're giving them 2K extra....on top of the 12K off our asking price.

Awesome.

[reeselite]

De-lurking too, just to say Happy Anniversary. Still keeping positive thoughts regarding the sale of your home. Keeping fingers crossed for you. :)

[Jill Hausen]

I feel you. Sleeping and waking up next to mine of five years is still pretty damn blissful.