Audience Participation.

For the last month or so Logan's been scheduled with about 100 hours worth of work on various projects, even though generally one works about 40 hours a week, 60 if you have no life or kids or house or wife. A-hem. Things are reasonably caught up so he's decided to take a day off tomorrow.

Do you understand what this means? Tomorrow, I get to spend the entire day with my husband. Alone.

Yee-Haw!

All week he's been telling me to think about what we should do. The options are endless really, the first thing that comes to mind is, you know, things married people sometimes do. Alone. Logan's good at those things, but not 7 hours worth of good. I think at the 7 hour mark when married people are doing the things that married people sometimes do alone, there may be chafing.

So here's my question, how would you spend an entire day (kids go to school at 9 and come home at 4) alone with your favorite person you also sleep with?

It's supposed to be partly cloudy and 69 degrees (Oh Dear, 69, how appropriate.)

Comments

[jessica]

my husband and I are having one of those days tomorrow, TOO! Sadly I cannot help you as we don't have much planned past "that thing married people sometimes do. alone" since it's been a loooooonnng time since this married couple has been ALONE. maybe getting a nice coffee drink together and dessert and either enjoying it outside in a park, or in a ncie quiet cafe together? whatever you do - have fun!!!

[FabGirl]

Well, besides the required Sexy Time, I vote for a lunch out. At a restaurant where there will be no kids. And where drinks can be had.
Have fun!

[Nicole]

I definitely think taking a walk together might be nice. Some sweet hand holding or something? Of course, I have a two month old so if I had a day alone with my husband I think I'd just take a nap :). Alternately, you could challenge each other to a Guitar Player duel!

[Kim]

We'd head back to bed after the kids leave for school, then head out for a nice lunch at any place that doesn't use paper place mats. Sushi? Thai? Something the kids won't eat. After lunch, we'd spend the afternoon on the patio enjoying the silence.

Enjoy!

[janey]

A good long, loud roll in the hay. Yummy breakfast out and then a walk. Then an hour or so to relax before the kids get home.

[Michelle]

Treat yourselves! Go on a date to a place y'all love and the kids hate. Go see a movie for grown ups. Think about the stuff you used to LOVE to do before you had kids but haven't had time for.

And, oh yeah. Sexy time. ;)

[Kellie]

We used to do this once a week before number 2 came along in september. We would go back to bed after our son went to school and do those things that grown-up do. Take a shower together and then go have a great early lunch somewhere that we wouldn't bring our son. After that we would go to a movie. Coffee after that and then go get our son from school. Then we would do dinner out as a family. It was my most favorite time ever and I really miss it. Our baby is 8 months old now and there is no way we can do this. We don't even have a baby sitter here so we haven't been out alone since september. It sucks.

[ashley]

Read the paper slowly, without interruption, while drinking a lot of coffee. Participate in some adult extracurricular activities. You are in Royal Oak, right? So, hit a movie at the Main Art Theatre and then go for a late lunch at Bastone, or Sangria. Or, try the Royal Kubo at 14 & Main in Clawson. We just discovered it and LOVED it.

[Jen]

I find that any really good day requires the following:
1. That thing I know you already intend to do.
2. Eating...go to a restaurant for lunch and maybe drink a beer or two. I find that I love eating something fried like a corndog or tater tots just because I can.
3. Buying stuff...stuff that you haven't had time to buy and that will be fun to go home and play with. Like Christmas, but you don't have to wait and you know just what you want.
4. Talk about doing that thing married people do alone. And do it if you have time.

I hope your day is awesome!

[Beth]

GO TO A MOVIE. Seriously, I think if my husband and I had an entire day alone we would go to the movies. Perhaps even watch 2 movies IN THE SAME DAY!! We might go some place nice for lunch and the other thing we would do is go to the bookstore. He likes the coffee, I like the books. Have Fun!!

[Maggie]

Dude I am SO with Jen.

If Shawn and I had 9-4 together sans children (I dream of that sometimes, btw. LIVE MY DREAM FOR ME.) it would look like this:

901am: Sexy Time.
1030am: Talk about Sexy Time.
1100am: Be the first people seated at a restaurant for lunch.
1200pm: Go shopping or watch a movie or something.
200pm: Sexy Time.
300pm: Talk about everything under the sun, including how you just had Sexy Time again and wasn't it awesome?
400pm: Greet the kids because oddly enough, you missed them.

[The Casual Perfectionist]

As others have said, the first thing I thought of (okay, it's technically the third thing I thought of, because the Morning Delight Session and the Afternoon Delight Session are technically two activities...and two times does not usually cause chafing...) was going to a movie! Have fun!

[jdg]

I'm sure the long-haired swinger has some ideas.

[AnEmily]

Do it first thing, so you can discuss the high points all day. Then go to a museum. Or see Iron Man. Or have beers outside at a cafe. Or loll. That's what I'd do.

[Audrey - Pinks & Blues Girls]

OK... besides some chafing (that cracked me up when you said that!)... I would just hang out. My husband and I were thinking the other night what we did before the 3 boys and almost the 4th (due in June with 4th son)... and we used to do a lot of hanging out together. Walking, watching TV, cooking together, laughing... ahhh... you know, the good ol' times! ;)
Best,
Audrey

[Joel]

Go for a run?

I'm so sorry. I couldn't resist.

Find an arboretum or botanic garden to go for a walk? Lunch? Movie? We always seem to end up shopping for something that is just way too tough with kids in tow.

[HeatherK]

sleep late or at least climb back into bad after the kids leave. tasty lunch at some small cafe-ish type place. shopping/window shopping. throw a frisbee in the park. lay on a blanket under a shady tree and do nothing? do nothing? enjoy!

[Charise]

I don't have kids, but I do have one very overworked fiance and am also a busy bee, so I can at least partially understand the excitement of a WHOLE! DAY! TOGETHER! ALONE!

I would second lots of the other suggestions - lunch someplace not kid-friendly with drinks, a walk in a park that doesn't hold playground equipment. And watching a movie - but at home, all snuggled up. And not entirely clothed. Movie theaters are overrated.

Yay! Have fun!

[John]

Go downtown and or someplace close that out of town folks are drawn to. Participate and explore as if you were tourists from a different country. Get out and walk. The shared experience and sense of wonder makes even the mundane seem exciting. Greektown comes to mind. Have lunch where they light your food on fire.

or

Make out in an elevator.

[Rebecca]

But but but... where are the MIL comments?! Your audience is WAITING!

[Spacemom]

Good lord woman. Just because HE is chafing doesn't mean he has to stop for you!

I would go out for lunch. At a place where you don't see crayons and menus on placemats when you walk in

[RubiaLala]

"Play" time, rent a couple movies, pick up some Chinese (or insert favorite take out food), take a nap.

[Sue]

Couples massage.

[Katie]

Well after the "adult fun", we'd take a nap. Seriously on our child-less vacations, we always take nice long naps. Seeing a movie is also a great idea and I like the idea of a long leisurely lunch out. Have fun!

[ollka]

How appropriate that your Flickr badge is currently showing you licking your husband...

When my husband and I get a free day together, we just hang around like the bores we are. Go for a walk, take pictures of each other, cuddle in public places, have coffee, la di dah. We don't have kids though.

[Shawna]

Plan a lunch menu together, shop for it together and cook for each other. Married people time is good before and after. And a movie could be nice too. :)

[sarah]

1. Sexy time and shower.
2. Lunch at kidless spot with booze. Dress up a little so you blend well with the office folk. Wear the good jeans and your favorite shirt. Put on a little makeup.
3. Bookstore/music store.
4. Read together with more booze (preferably outside) 'til 4. Smoke 'em if ya got 'em.
5. Go for ice cream or a special treat (new DS game, anyone?) with the kids when they get home from school . . .nothing obliterates the memory of a fabulous day like an episode of after school bickering.

[Robin]

Make a pitcher of margaritas and take you pants off. The rest will work itself out. Pantless Friday is the best thing.

[nell]

I always have a really great time playing. My bf and I like to get away to play basketball, soccer, catch, football or go play mini-golf, go-carts, visit the zoo or something. I love being able to do immature stuff. I think you can see a movie any day, but getting out and playing is so much fun.

[stephanie]

Oooh, we always used to go for drives together. Find some back roads (you could even take "that thing married people do alone" on the road, if you dare!) or drive to some small town you don't normally drive through and eat somewhere you've never been, you know, explore. If you wanted to stick with your theme, you could head east or west on I-69! And take your camera.

Have a great time! I'm jealous.

[Amy]

ohhh! Do that thing married folk do, then go to Prontos for a nice brunch and have some of their to die for deserts. Stroll the streets of Royal oak for bit. Have nice afternoon cocktail and head on home and well - theirs always that thing married folk do again ;)

Enjoy the beautiful day!

[Claire]

I'm with Robin ... take your pants off and drink. I really can't think of anything that will top that. Although, maybe getting stoned instead of the drinking? OH! And eating yummy things! Oh man, we are both going to call in sick next Friday. This just might be the best idea I've ever had.

[kris]

i like the fact that there is an ad for a yeast infection cure right under todays story!

[Mermaid]

Couples massage, no question! We go to a place where you get a bath in the jacuzzi tub for two with champagne before the massage. Then go to a yummy retaurant for lunch and head home for dessert (wink wink!)

[Jenn @ Juggling Life]

When your kids get older you can actually do that thing married couples do--uninterrupted--on a pretty regular basis. As long as you're done before everyone gets home at curfew and comes to wake you up so you can furtively smell their clothing and make sure they can string together a coherent sentence.

But I digress, a day alone . . . I'm with the lunch and movie crowd--possibly followed by some wild browsing at a bookstore! Have fun!

[Hetty Fauxvert]

Just make sure you do the "married person thing" first off, because when you go movie-watching or museum hopping or lunch-with-drinking, those have a way of eating up time and you might end up running late to pick up the kids and (horrors!) MISS your Sexy Time! Don't risk it. Life is short. Eat dessert first.

[Kelley]

If it was me, and it never is sadly, I would get supplies of munchies the night before or the second the kids are gone, set the alarm for 20 mins before the kids get home, jump into bed and not leave until the last minute.

But then again right now I would probably scarf some chocolate go to sleep and make my husband get the kids. Sad but true.

[Meg]

A nice long breakfast out and some mid-afternoon Margaritas just because you can.

[Shelley]

Do the married thing; shower together; go out for a nice lunch somewhere you can hold hands over the table; then go go-karting and then you will want to go home and do the married thing all over again. And if you do stay home, pants should definitely be optional.

[Stacey]

You did NOT just say that! :)

[Jennifer]

Go to the new steak house at the casino downtown, or shopping in Birmingham and lunch. I think that would be great

[vbd93]

The key is that you do things you never do with the kids, whether it's restaurants, shopping for yourselves, bars, casinos, etc, etc. When my husband and I occasionally have a day to ourselves I get very bitter if we find ourselves somewhere that we go with our 3 year old!

[johncommoner]

Alone ... alone ... alone? What is that? I forgot.

I'd cut off a finger, or at least a pinky toe, in exchange for a good babysitter.

[Manager Mom]

Might I suggest, *ahem*, battery-operated props to help fill the rest of the seven hours?

Used properly they provide equal opportunity fun.

[Mermaid]

Well, what did you do?

[angela]

This post and these comments have made me cry! I really HOPE you and LOGAN (heart!) enjoy your day together - every minute of it. I am teary because I just wish that I had that connection still with the man I love. He is suffering from some intense depression right now and time alone lately has consisted of us crying and me holding him.

[Vanest]

Three babies and no babysitters so we haven't had a stretch of alone time since June 25, 2005. But here's what I would do (pick and choose at your own risk):
1)Coffee & paper
2)Sex followed by nap
3)Mix margaritas
4)Pick up ready-made sandwiches
5)Head to beach with margaritas & sandwiches (it's only 11am afterall).
6)Splash around with spouse in the ocean
7)Lay with face to the sun, ears to the waves, and spouse by my side until school lets out.
ahhhhhhh.................
Enjoy your day!

[Kim]

Sex, Lunch with drinks, Movie. Wait, rent a movie, open a bottle of wine, sex, lunch, movie and sex before pickup. To prevent the chafing try that new His/Hers KY I've seen advertised on E! channel. It usually accompanies some show I shouldn't be watching. Enjoy your day.

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[Inventing Matilda]

Go on an actual date. You know, the kind you shave your legs for. Go see a movie and eat a delicious lunch. Go for a walk and most importantly: TALK to each other. Talk, talk talk...and the talk some more.
-Inventing Matilda

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[susiesmith]

i would like to advise these women whose kids are in school to put your hsband first. i'm along time married lady. shock your husband take showers together get him stemed up, not too much,get in bed and do some new stuff. ask him to f.... u doggy and play with his balls and turn the lites on so he can get a good view. my hubby loves to kiss and nuzzle my cheeks before he gets started . m ass.. cheeks. i luv it. i play with his balls while he f...s me. he will explode with pleasure and luv you for it. he likes to slip his lubed finger down the crack of my butt to make me hot. try it. i play with my breasts while he is doing me. he likes to doggy me when i'm at the end of my period when i feel hottest, make sure theres a towel under you. if you love him like that he will never roam. try orally doing him like this. pretend you are eatig a 3 dip ice cream cone and it's slowly melting. it's dripping down the sides and you are lapping it, sometimes slow and sometimes faster. then put the whole top in your mouth and lap it. play wih his balls while doing it. i don't swallow. my husband actually whimpers when i lick him and i also put my small mouth around the ridge below the head and squeeze gently. he moans and roans and i love pleasuring him like that . believe me, you will be wel rewarded. we were the only ones with each other and he loves me to lick him and kiss his memmber all over side to side, he will never stray and you women learn how to please him you can never oral him enuff. he turns into a mass of softness. this is what hookers do. my man will never have to look elsewhere. i also like to have him come in the house and i will stand by the sink with no underwear on all showered and smelling good. when he feels under my skirt he gets hard immediately.i am wet waithig for him and he gently fingers my kitty. i get him to sit on a dining room chair and ride him for a quickie. i can't get pregnant. he loves my way of surprising him with sex. i've taught him how to lick and kiss my kitty. men have to know they have to take time with us to get our clit out from it's hiding place they want to start licking. i like him to start kissing my kitty lips inside and out and then lap slowly when my clit is swollen. , it takes about ten minutes. when my clit is exposed and he laps slowwy'owly over the mound. i give himsome love juice and my legs are wrapped around his neck and i grab his face and warn him not to leave my kitty and i can cum 20 times or more. my ass is all over the bed writhing for about two minutes. then, when he laps again, more honey and i love it. i can't cum wih intercourse. only oral sex when he does it right/ train your husbands to take their time, it took me a while to get him slowed down. i sometimes masturbate him first if i want sex later, then we shower and get alonger session in later. ladies, i also want to share this. after we finish, i give him a surgeon's glove and a lot of lube and i lay in front of him in bed with a towel underneath. i get him to stroke my rectum for awhile and then insert his finger in my rectum very slowly and put it in about two inches at the most. then he slowly pulls it outpast the sphincter muscles and keeps that up, slooooowly . i love it and so does he and it is soooo soothing . it brings me down from that sex. no going to sleep for him until i'm satisfied. stand up for yourselves. i also do the rectal thing with him and he actually whimpers like a baby. we don't do anal but if he wants you to finger him with more than one finger. maybe he would like two or three. always remmeber that you have to do it gently. we were married along time before we learned the rectal thing is really wonderful and soothing. he also liked to doggy me a little after my period when i was the horniest, try it but don;t get pregnant.i had to teach my man that you don't kiss me for five minutes and then go to my breasts and start sucking my nipples. i taught him to take each breast in hi hands and make love tot hem by kissing,licking, and gently pullin them into his mouth while liking softly. go from one to another and kiss kiss kiss and lick, then when i pull his head down to my nipples, he knows he cansuck them gently. if i'm not hot it irritates me, a good over lets you hear the kisses and i like that i hope i taught you a little. men think they know it all. i like geentle sucking and licking. i also like hi to take y clit when it's swollen and my kitty lips are swollen from his kissing, to get my ccclit in his outh and gently suckit in his mouth an i cum over and over , been here and still enjoying it in my senor yrs. my husband was alwwys satisfied and didn't have to roam. men like a lot of sex. ask [talk sex with sue]oh1 my husband would shower and then go into the den and stand and do a jigsaw puzzle. i would go in and gt behind him and he would pretend not to notice and i would gently stroke and masturbate him to almost havig an orgasm and then i would sit on hi and bring him to one. he loved that. once when he was itting doing a puzzle. i told him not to notice me in his shorts and i would crawl under the table [ a card table] and gently pull hs engorged penis out of his boxers with my mouth and take his balls in my hand and slowly give him a kiss and lick job. he offerred to pay for that one. it was one of his fnatasies, it makes me wet thinking about how much he loved that. whie he's watching a football game just go in and unzip him and start oralling him.[of course we are both very clean/ i can guarantee that he will forget about the game and normally he would want to finish with sex wth me before cuming. i always like to have him cum in me and he loves my snapper. he says that it feels like someone's sucking his penis . sometimes i surprise him and go kiss him and ask him if he wants me to f.... him with my mouth. what do you think he says? he is hard in a minute and he isn't a young guy.

[susiesmith]

men and women alwyas be vey clean about your body if you want surprised sex. always use breath mints and after shave and women. my husband always ells me how good i smell and feel. it ake good care of myself. i use cologne very mild. i also lve my husband to kiss the back of my legs. there i snothing that will put alover off thna odors. my husband even kisses me under my arms and on my back he loves y soft skin. cleanliness is vital. nice under wear doesn't hurt either. i have a gown with the braests cutout and my breasts just fit in there. it's black. my hubby likes me to call him in if he's outside on the porch i just wiggle my finger and he knows what i want. he will say[ what do youwant1] and i will say [ i want some f...... or lick... i have anice figure and i take care of my srlf. i will tease him and whisper in his ear[ i heard your'e agood c.... la...../ i am imaginitive. that's why men strya. my husbnad never knows what i'm up to. we does like oral sex[bare naked] i don't mind because we never had sex with anyone else. my hsband told me on our wedding day that he would never be untrue to me because he knew he had avirgin wife. and i knew he was avirgin. i do draw the line at anal sex. he never wnted that either