For some reason....

There are boxes all over the house and the mattress is against the wall...

And there's a truck outside and three big men are taking things out of our house?

I want to tell them to stop...but they're quite large.

I guess I can live here without furniture.

Comments

[Karen]

You poor thing. I feel for you. Hang in there and I hope you can find comfort with your family. Best of luck to you all in your new home!

[Joel]

Nice to see your priorities are in order and the wireless router is the last thing to get unplugged.

[melissas]

sent from iPhone! This too.

[melissas]

sent from iPhone! This too.

[Jen]

Hi..delurking here..I too am facing a move..1300 miles away. From Florida to Missouri, short selling a house we built 15 yrs ago because the housing market in south Fl. sucks!!! I will be here until my daughter graduates HS in June. Hubby has been there 6 wks and even though it beats unemloyment, it is the hardest thing I've had to do. Tears on a daily basis, an asshole supervisor who wonders why I haven't been in a good mood lately and lots of decluttering! It's reassuring to know that others are going thru the same thing. I'll keep reading your blog and comments to help keep me sane!!! Take care Jen :)

[Why Mom Drinks Rum]

I've heard....and it's just a rumor mind you....if you pour sugar in a gas tank things kind of stop working.

Just a thought.

[kbreints]

At least you are not packing the truck...

[Cary]

dude, can't you call some kind snow day or something? a delay perhaps? no?

[shina hart]

We leased a home we fell in love with and then had to move too. Sucks just doesn't quite cover it.

On a brighter note with the money we saved we bought a home we love within a couple of years. So there's that. Yeah, I know. Thinking of you.

[Sharon]

Good luck. Be strong.

[Jayne]

I heard this quote somewhere the other day. I know quotes don't always help that much, but here it is: "Change is hard because people overestimate the value of what they have."

Hang in there! I know you will have lots of beautiful moments in your new house.

[Emily]

I say stick with the denial. I just don't see how you can lose that way. :)

[Lisa Marie]

Jen - What part of Missouri? I'm in Central Missouri - Columbia area.

Happy to have lunch and say 'hey' if you're in my neck of the woods.

And Melissa hang in there. You've got lots of love-rays shooting your way.

[TheHans]

Another Central Missourian here, and I have a question...can you train Gary to trip the movers?
Seriously, I hope your move goes as smoothly as it possibly can, and you find a million things to love about your new house. In the meantime, I hope the fridge is stocked with several 'adult beverages' to assist with the whole coping thing.

[Dawn]

Denial works! My friend's father died almost 8 years ago and her mother told me after the funeral service that she was going to live in denial forever and if reality reared it's head, she was going to stomp on it until she was back in denial. It's totally working for her - she refuses to acknowledge in any way that her husband has died and you could do the same thing. Just pretend the new house is the old house and deny any evidence to the contrary!

[Hayley]

I'm sorry you're having a hard time. We downsized from a custom built home on 5 acres to a 2 bedroom townhome with an HOA that sucks big hairy balls, and we're pretty much stuck in it until our home sells. I would LOVE to be moving out right now.

Stay positive! And go buy yourself something freakin sweet with all that money you're going to be saving.

[Hayley]

And I love that you used your iPhone to post. My husband is ALWAYS on his, so I've been thinking of forming The iPhone Widows' Club. With jackets and everything.

[amy]

Moving sucks in the best of times. Think of all the money you will be saving and you can always visit the new and fabulous friends right?

Keep reminding yourself that you are doing this for a reason, you could stay in the pricey rental that floods and falls apart or move on and hope for the best.

Life sucks at times. I am sorry..

[Jen]

Lisa Maris...I'm moving to Columbia. Hubs is working for UM Healthcare systems. Please e-mail me at gwtwjen@aol.com and I can pick your ear about a thousand different things!

[angelawd]

I'm dying to hear how you broke the news to the evil landlord. Will you be taking a few bathroom tiles with you as a memento?

[Julie]

Melissa- It feels weird that I have been wondering how I woman whom I have never met is coping with sucky stuff, but here I find myself. Making the right decision blows, especially in this age of consumerism and denial(in terms of one's financial reality, that is... I am definitely in favor of denial as an emotional coping mechanism). I really hope that you are proud of yourself- if I knew you in real life I'd be proud of you.

[Mary]

I've had to move TWICE from a place I love! It does break your heart.

However, now I live in the house I used to gaze at longingly, hoping that someday I could afford to rent it. Guess what! It turned out, after a few years, I could buy it!

In the mean time, I feel for you. This truly does suck, but hang in there. Good things do happen to good people.

[Dorothee]

Melissa, I know this is hard. I had to sell my dream home in my dream neighbourhood to return to my birth country (where I did not want to go). But remembering that home gives me warm fuzzies ... and the heart-ache does fade.

One day I will be back!

[the Mayor]

I know it's a bummer but many of us are in a similar predicament here in Michigan. I only live 20 minutes west of you, email me if you need a helping hand.(Seriously) Moving, organizing, bringing food and interesting cocktails are my specialty.My kids are in school all day so I could arrive with a tray of lattes lickity split.
We are still in the trying to explore what would be a better place for us to move to phase. Call if you need a little help.

[Slim]

Don't let them take your squeegee -- you'll need it if you decide to shower in your empty house. Plus you could use it to earn a little cash.

[dewshane]

Melissa, I have serious problems with changes in my life too, especially those that make me feel like I'm not in control of my own future. I'm a big worrier, and I always plan for the worst case scenario. It only recently occurred to me that maybe this isn't the healthiest way to think. Especially since the change itself is almost never as bad in reality as it was in my head.

Good luck and hang in there!

[SarahA]

Hoping the move is going as well as it can.

Here's a fun story: A friend of a friend admired this dream house since she was a little girl and she and her fiancee were able to purchase it when it miraculously came on the market at just the right time.

Long story short, 30 days after moving in, painting all over and fixing it up to her tastes, he and ran off with another woman. And oops, the house was in his name. So not only did she lose her dream house, her ex kept it and moved in the new gf, whom he married soon after.

I share this wonderful little tale only because misery loves company. At the very least, I hope you're enjoying showering without hand-drying the tiles afterward. Still rolling my eyes at your landlord over that one.

[Elaine]

I'm just de-lurking to wish you the best with settling in and re-grouping. I know how much it sucks to be leaving behind your awesome neighbors/neighborhood. And I second the motion to hear how you broke the news to the evil landlord. I'm imagining a paper airplane with your moving notice lazily aimed at his head, all while blowing raspberry bubbles every time he tries to say something. Am I close?

[Ashley]

Melissa,
Thanks for being you.